(brushes the dust off her blog).
I've been thinking lately about how men who wouldn't consider themselves submissive at all become very submissive and are happy doing anything to please their wives, once their wives decide to take control in their relationship. I find that very interesting. It makes me wonder if all men are submissive deep down inside, but just need it brought out of them.
I've read a lot of testimonials from men and women all over the net on sites like Real Women Don't Do Housework and Elise Sutton's Female Superiority site saying that before when the man was in charge, neither of them were happy and they were drifting apart, but since the woman took control, both of them are a lot happier and closer than they've ever been. I can't help but think that there must be something more to it if a man who doesn't consider himself submissive in the least can be essentially turned into a slave. I can't help but think that the natural order is for women to be in control and for men to obey them. That there's some part of a man's psyche that yearns for him to be controlled by a woman, even if he doesn't realize it.
It also makes me wonder if the divorce rate is so high because men and women are in relationships where the man is in charge and neither of them are happy. It makes me wonder... if every woman took control in every relationship, would the divorce rate be a lot lower? Maybe even nonexistent?
I've read a lot of testimonials that say that the wife taking control saved their marriage because they were otherwise heading for divorce.
Another thing I find interesting is about male chastity. I've read from a lot of women who keep their men locked up in a chastity device (and the men who are locked in them) that the longer they're locked up, the more submissive and obedient they become, but once they're allowed to have an orgasm, for the next 1 or 2 days, they don't feel submissive at all. But then after a couple more days of being locked up, they're once again submissive and obedient. I find it very interesting that keeping a man locked up makes him more obedient, instead of pissed off and rebellious because he hasn't been allowed an orgasm.
Saturday, August 8, 2009
Sunday, August 19, 2007
Natural Dominant
There are hundreds of articles and websites that talk about what makes someone a natural submissive or slave, but what makes someone a natural dominant?
I searched and couldn't find anything besides personal ads saying "I am a natural dominant", so give me your opinions.
I searched and couldn't find anything besides personal ads saying "I am a natural dominant", so give me your opinions.
Thursday, April 12, 2007
More evidence of Female Superiority
Women are better friends than men, research shows
Contrary to what some people may think, it is women, not men, who are more likely to form long-lasting friendships. Sociologists from the Research Centre for Socio-Cultural Change at the University of Manchester conducted a study over a four-year period, and their findings suggest that men, on the one hand, are more fickle and calculating about who they should be friends with, while women, on the other hand, are steadfast in their approach to friendships: they support their friends not only during the good times, but also during the bad times.
Dr Gindo Tampubolon, of the Centre for Socio-Cultural Change, said the findings also suggest that women typically socialise with women, and men with men. Data shows that 75% of best friends are with people from our own gender. "Friendship between women seems to be fundamentally different to friendship between men," explained Dr Tampubolon. "It's much deeper and more moral: it's about the relationship itself rather than what they can get out of it."According to the researcher, whether women friends live in the same city or are kilometres apart makes no difference. "Women tend to keep their friends through thick and thin across geography and social mobility," he said. The bottom line is that women see friendship as a means to "express themselves and form their identity," while men look at relationships in a self-seeking way, as in "what's in it for me," he said. The study also supports the view that men are likely to base their friendship on social drinking. There is a tendency for middle class people to socialise with people from different social circles, while working class individuals typically form relationships with their own kind, the data shows.Dr Tampubolon said, "The findings reflect our view that friendship is not a choice. We have contact with friends, family, neighbourhood and work which we are or are not able to turn into friendships." While middle class people are capable of expanding their friendships to comprise family and work, there are restrictions on working class people. "They are likely to form a best friend with another working class person," he explained.For Professor of Sociology Mike Savage, the findings "draw upon a tradition of inquiry known as Social Network Analysis (SNA), developed by Professor John Barnes who was based here at the Victoria University of Manchester in 1952-1953. SNA is able to analyse social structures using a series of algorithms and we wanted to explore its application in this area and others."
Women do better than men on timed tests
NASHVILLE, Sept 5 (UPI) -- U.S. research into the differences between male and female brains suggests women perform better than men on timed tests because they think faster.
In a study involving more than 8,000 U.S. males and females ranging in age from 2 to 90, Vanderbilt University researchers Stephen Camarata and Richard Woodcock discovered females have a significant advantage on timed tests and tasks -- especially among pre-teens and teens.
"We found very minor differences in overall intelligence, but if you look at the ability of someone to perform well in a timed situation, females have a big advantage," Camarata said. "It is very important for teachers to understand this difference in males and females when it comes to assigning work and structuring tests.
"To truly understand a person's overall ability, it is important to also look at performance in un-timed situations," he added. "For males, this means presenting them with material that is challenging and interesting, but (which is) presented in smaller chunks without strict time limits."
The research was published in the May-June issue of the journal Intelligence.
Contrary to what some people may think, it is women, not men, who are more likely to form long-lasting friendships. Sociologists from the Research Centre for Socio-Cultural Change at the University of Manchester conducted a study over a four-year period, and their findings suggest that men, on the one hand, are more fickle and calculating about who they should be friends with, while women, on the other hand, are steadfast in their approach to friendships: they support their friends not only during the good times, but also during the bad times.
Dr Gindo Tampubolon, of the Centre for Socio-Cultural Change, said the findings also suggest that women typically socialise with women, and men with men. Data shows that 75% of best friends are with people from our own gender. "Friendship between women seems to be fundamentally different to friendship between men," explained Dr Tampubolon. "It's much deeper and more moral: it's about the relationship itself rather than what they can get out of it."According to the researcher, whether women friends live in the same city or are kilometres apart makes no difference. "Women tend to keep their friends through thick and thin across geography and social mobility," he said. The bottom line is that women see friendship as a means to "express themselves and form their identity," while men look at relationships in a self-seeking way, as in "what's in it for me," he said. The study also supports the view that men are likely to base their friendship on social drinking. There is a tendency for middle class people to socialise with people from different social circles, while working class individuals typically form relationships with their own kind, the data shows.Dr Tampubolon said, "The findings reflect our view that friendship is not a choice. We have contact with friends, family, neighbourhood and work which we are or are not able to turn into friendships." While middle class people are capable of expanding their friendships to comprise family and work, there are restrictions on working class people. "They are likely to form a best friend with another working class person," he explained.For Professor of Sociology Mike Savage, the findings "draw upon a tradition of inquiry known as Social Network Analysis (SNA), developed by Professor John Barnes who was based here at the Victoria University of Manchester in 1952-1953. SNA is able to analyse social structures using a series of algorithms and we wanted to explore its application in this area and others."
Women do better than men on timed tests
NASHVILLE, Sept 5 (UPI) -- U.S. research into the differences between male and female brains suggests women perform better than men on timed tests because they think faster.
In a study involving more than 8,000 U.S. males and females ranging in age from 2 to 90, Vanderbilt University researchers Stephen Camarata and Richard Woodcock discovered females have a significant advantage on timed tests and tasks -- especially among pre-teens and teens.
"We found very minor differences in overall intelligence, but if you look at the ability of someone to perform well in a timed situation, females have a big advantage," Camarata said. "It is very important for teachers to understand this difference in males and females when it comes to assigning work and structuring tests.
"To truly understand a person's overall ability, it is important to also look at performance in un-timed situations," he added. "For males, this means presenting them with material that is challenging and interesting, but (which is) presented in smaller chunks without strict time limits."
The research was published in the May-June issue of the journal Intelligence.
On April 10th, I got a message on Collarme.com from a male submissive, asking me how much experience I had with strapons, and if I had any pictures of my feet. I checked his profile, and it's empty except for some interests listed, one of which was foot worship.
I've been around long enough to know when a wannabe sub is just looking for jerkoff material, so I blocked him.
Later that day, I get another message from a male dom saying only: " honestly, what's wrong with you?" I wrote back and said "excuse me?" I thought it was some male dom who thinks that all women are submissive, and any who say they're dominant are just in denial. Or some SAM trying to draw me into an argument, which I wasn't going to let happen. I wasn't born yesterday.
He writes back and says "Yeah, what's wrong with you?A sub approaches You telling You he wishes to worships You like a Goddess, what You do next? Ignore and block him, how mean and sick is that?"
Mean and sick? Hardly. You approach a Female Dominant acting like a jackass like he did, and you expect anything different? He must be new, as his "male dom" persona says. (his nick has "newbie" in it).
So, of course I block the jackass again. I wonder if he'll make a new profile and message me again.
I'm not sure what's worse. This guy, or the male subs who can't handle it when you politely say you're not interested, and just have to write you saying that you might be making the biggest mistake of your life, and that he could have been "the one" but now you'll never know. I always lose so much sleep over it when a male sub says that to me. He could have been The One, but now I'll never know!
I've been around long enough to know when a wannabe sub is just looking for jerkoff material, so I blocked him.
Later that day, I get another message from a male dom saying only: " honestly, what's wrong with you?" I wrote back and said "excuse me?" I thought it was some male dom who thinks that all women are submissive, and any who say they're dominant are just in denial. Or some SAM trying to draw me into an argument, which I wasn't going to let happen. I wasn't born yesterday.
He writes back and says "Yeah, what's wrong with you?A sub approaches You telling You he wishes to worships You like a Goddess, what You do next? Ignore and block him, how mean and sick is that?"
Mean and sick? Hardly. You approach a Female Dominant acting like a jackass like he did, and you expect anything different? He must be new, as his "male dom" persona says. (his nick has "newbie" in it).
So, of course I block the jackass again. I wonder if he'll make a new profile and message me again.
I'm not sure what's worse. This guy, or the male subs who can't handle it when you politely say you're not interested, and just have to write you saying that you might be making the biggest mistake of your life, and that he could have been "the one" but now you'll never know. I always lose so much sleep over it when a male sub says that to me. He could have been The One, but now I'll never know!
Thursday, January 18, 2007
Friday, December 15, 2006
Female Superiority
For years now, I've been hearing from many different sources about different things that Females are better at than males. Each on their own probably doesn't mean much, but when you put them all together, they equal Female Superiority.
Unlike the idea of male superiority, which is based on the fact that males have a penis, and has no evidence to back it up, Female Superiority has a lot of evidence to back it up. As far as I'm concerned, it's a fact.
Here is the evidence I've collected so far:
Men may be the weaker sex
British Medical Journal report: "the fragile male"
Women handle pain better than men
Females handle stress better than males
Male violence blamed on genes (Anybody who tries to say a Matriarchal world wouldn't be more peaceful is a fool).
Women better than men at instant maths
Wake up, men: Women are better at running the show
Academic survey gives Women nod as better bosses
The Female CEO ca. 2002
Gender gaps on the brain: bigger brains don't make men smarter
UF STUDY: men think they have better memories; Women really do
Keeping cool - Study finds women's brains are better at handling anger
Gene study: Women are responsible for brains
How men's power over women fuels the HIV epidemic (Not necessarily about Female Superiority, but it shows how men having power is harmful).
Male mood swings caused by drop in testosterone levels (And men have the nerve to call us moody and hormonal!)
Are Women better investors than men?
Women are better drivers
The Y chromosome: goldmine and junkyard
Women and science: new research explodes old bias
It's a Woman's world: the phasing out of men
God the mother
As leaders, Women rule
Women, it seems, are better bosses
Health habits worse in men, CDC reports
Women docs relate to patients better (I can attest to this one. My last doctor was male, and he was a jackass. He ignored most of the problems I went to him with).
Women outlast men during exercise
Unlike the idea of male superiority, which is based on the fact that males have a penis, and has no evidence to back it up, Female Superiority has a lot of evidence to back it up. As far as I'm concerned, it's a fact.
Here is the evidence I've collected so far:
Men may be the weaker sex
British Medical Journal report: "the fragile male"
Women handle pain better than men
Females handle stress better than males
Male violence blamed on genes (Anybody who tries to say a Matriarchal world wouldn't be more peaceful is a fool).
Women better than men at instant maths
Wake up, men: Women are better at running the show
Academic survey gives Women nod as better bosses
The Female CEO ca. 2002
Gender gaps on the brain: bigger brains don't make men smarter
UF STUDY: men think they have better memories; Women really do
Keeping cool - Study finds women's brains are better at handling anger
Gene study: Women are responsible for brains
How men's power over women fuels the HIV epidemic (Not necessarily about Female Superiority, but it shows how men having power is harmful).
Male mood swings caused by drop in testosterone levels (And men have the nerve to call us moody and hormonal!)
Are Women better investors than men?
Women are better drivers
The Y chromosome: goldmine and junkyard
Women and science: new research explodes old bias
It's a Woman's world: the phasing out of men
God the mother
As leaders, Women rule
Women, it seems, are better bosses
Health habits worse in men, CDC reports
Women docs relate to patients better (I can attest to this one. My last doctor was male, and he was a jackass. He ignored most of the problems I went to him with).
Women outlast men during exercise
Wednesday, December 13, 2006
Now you see them, now you don't
What is it with the submissive males you meet through personals websites? You start talking to a guy and things seem to be going pretty well, but as soon as you ask them for a picture, they pull a disappearing act.
Relatively new to all of this
I've been "involved" in BDSM for about 10 years now. I put "involved" in quotes because most of my involvement has been online. I did have some mild bondage experiences with my first boyfriend - We tied each other up during sex. I found that I liked tying him up a lot more than I liked being tied up. The power of having him at my mercy while I did things to him was intoxicating.
I've read books, websites, talked to people, I've even had an online slave once. But so far, it's only been online. I still haven't managed to find a slave in real life, despite having had ads on numerous BDSM personals websites. In my experience, most of the guys on those sites claiming to be submissive are just looking for kinky sex, not a Mistress/slave relationship, or even a remotely D/s relationship. One guy even messaged me and said he was looking for someone to cheat on his girlfriend discreetly behind her back with.
So, I keep looking. Not finding a whole lot, but I keep looking nonetheless.
I was recently talking to a submissive on Collarme. It seemed to be going well for a while, and then out of the blue - nothing. I haven't heard from him now for about 2 or 3 weeks. I'm not sure what happened. I guess maybe I said something he didn't like. Oh well, his loss. I continue looking, and talking to other submissives on Collarme.
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