Thursday, January 18, 2007

I was recently talking to a male "submissive" online for a couple of days. We talked through and email. Then, two nights ago, he messaged me on MSN messenger. We talked on Tuesday night and last night. Last night while we were talking, he, out of nowhere, asked me to call him on the phone. I said I didn't want to yet, since we had only known each other for a few days. I said I wanted to get to know him better first. He started asking me why I didn't want to, and saying he didn't get it.
Now, there's a little bit of background info that should go in here. My last boyfriend was like this - pushy, demanding, didn't care about my personal boundaries. All he cared about was what was in it for him. He didn't care about my feelings, or what I did or didn't want. When this "submissive" started acting this way, red flags and sirens went off. I recognized the behaviour immediately.
The conversation went silent for a couple of minutes, and then he said "Is there anything you want to know?" (In the interest of getting to know him better so we could talk on the phone). I said "actually, I don't think there's anything else I want to know." Then, he called me a phoney, so I blocked him on MSN. A few minutes later, I got an email from him on hotmail, saying that I was a phoney and I would never get a slave like him. Pfft. I don't want a "slave" like him.
I just love how my not giving in to his pushy demands makes me a phoney.