Sunday, August 19, 2007

Natural Dominant

There are hundreds of articles and websites that talk about what makes someone a natural submissive or slave, but what makes someone a natural dominant?
I searched and couldn't find anything besides personal ads saying "I am a natural dominant", so give me your opinions.

Thursday, April 12, 2007

More evidence of Female Superiority

Women are better friends than men, research shows
Contrary to what some people may think, it is women, not men, who are more likely to form long-lasting friendships. Sociologists from the Research Centre for Socio-Cultural Change at the University of Manchester conducted a study over a four-year period, and their findings suggest that men, on the one hand, are more fickle and calculating about who they should be friends with, while women, on the other hand, are steadfast in their approach to friendships: they support their friends not only during the good times, but also during the bad times.

Dr Gindo Tampubolon, of the Centre for Socio-Cultural Change, said the findings also suggest that women typically socialise with women, and men with men. Data shows that 75% of best friends are with people from our own gender. "Friendship between women seems to be fundamentally different to friendship between men," explained Dr Tampubolon. "It's much deeper and more moral: it's about the relationship itself rather than what they can get out of it."According to the researcher, whether women friends live in the same city or are kilometres apart makes no difference. "Women tend to keep their friends through thick and thin across geography and social mobility," he said. The bottom line is that women see friendship as a means to "express themselves and form their identity," while men look at relationships in a self-seeking way, as in "what's in it for me," he said. The study also supports the view that men are likely to base their friendship on social drinking. There is a tendency for middle class people to socialise with people from different social circles, while working class individuals typically form relationships with their own kind, the data shows.Dr Tampubolon said, "The findings reflect our view that friendship is not a choice. We have contact with friends, family, neighbourhood and work which we are or are not able to turn into friendships." While middle class people are capable of expanding their friendships to comprise family and work, there are restrictions on working class people. "They are likely to form a best friend with another working class person," he explained.For Professor of Sociology Mike Savage, the findings "draw upon a tradition of inquiry known as Social Network Analysis (SNA), developed by Professor John Barnes who was based here at the Victoria University of Manchester in 1952-1953. SNA is able to analyse social structures using a series of algorithms and we wanted to explore its application in this area and others."


Women do better than men on timed tests
NASHVILLE, Sept 5 (UPI) -- U.S. research into the differences between male and female brains suggests women perform better than men on timed tests because they think faster.
In a study involving more than 8,000 U.S. males and females ranging in age from 2 to 90, Vanderbilt University researchers Stephen Camarata and Richard Woodcock discovered females have a significant advantage on timed tests and tasks -- especially among pre-teens and teens.
"We found very minor differences in overall intelligence, but if you look at the ability of someone to perform well in a timed situation, females have a big advantage," Camarata said. "It is very important for teachers to understand this difference in males and females when it comes to assigning work and structuring tests.
"To truly understand a person's overall ability, it is important to also look at performance in un-timed situations," he added. "For males, this means presenting them with material that is challenging and interesting, but (which is) presented in smaller chunks without strict time limits."
The research was published in the May-June issue of the journal Intelligence.
On April 10th, I got a message on Collarme.com from a male submissive, asking me how much experience I had with strapons, and if I had any pictures of my feet. I checked his profile, and it's empty except for some interests listed, one of which was foot worship.
I've been around long enough to know when a wannabe sub is just looking for jerkoff material, so I blocked him.
Later that day, I get another message from a male dom saying only: " honestly, what's wrong with you?" I wrote back and said "excuse me?" I thought it was some male dom who thinks that all women are submissive, and any who say they're dominant are just in denial. Or some SAM trying to draw me into an argument, which I wasn't going to let happen. I wasn't born yesterday.
He writes back and says "Yeah, what's wrong with you?A sub approaches You telling You he wishes to worships You like a Goddess, what You do next? Ignore and block him, how mean and sick is that?"
Mean and sick? Hardly. You approach a Female Dominant acting like a jackass like he did, and you expect anything different? He must be new, as his "male dom" persona says. (his nick has "newbie" in it).
So, of course I block the jackass again. I wonder if he'll make a new profile and message me again.

I'm not sure what's worse. This guy, or the male subs who can't handle it when you politely say you're not interested, and just have to write you saying that you might be making the biggest mistake of your life, and that he could have been "the one" but now you'll never know. I always lose so much sleep over it when a male sub says that to me. He could have been The One, but now I'll never know!

Thursday, January 18, 2007

I was recently talking to a male "submissive" online for a couple of days. We talked through collarme.com and email. Then, two nights ago, he messaged me on MSN messenger. We talked on Tuesday night and last night. Last night while we were talking, he, out of nowhere, asked me to call him on the phone. I said I didn't want to yet, since we had only known each other for a few days. I said I wanted to get to know him better first. He started asking me why I didn't want to, and saying he didn't get it.
Now, there's a little bit of background info that should go in here. My last boyfriend was like this - pushy, demanding, didn't care about my personal boundaries. All he cared about was what was in it for him. He didn't care about my feelings, or what I did or didn't want. When this "submissive" started acting this way, red flags and sirens went off. I recognized the behaviour immediately.
The conversation went silent for a couple of minutes, and then he said "Is there anything you want to know?" (In the interest of getting to know him better so we could talk on the phone). I said "actually, I don't think there's anything else I want to know." Then, he called me a phoney, so I blocked him on MSN. A few minutes later, I got an email from him on hotmail, saying that I was a phoney and I would never get a slave like him. Pfft. I don't want a "slave" like him.
I just love how my not giving in to his pushy demands makes me a phoney.